Indian
Internet Matrimony - Dos and Donts -
By: Mrs Gayathri Sanyal (Marriage Consultant) for IndianMillionaireMarriages
.com
Marriage is one of the most important decisions of your life.
Be wary of matrimonial sites.
Don't
s
1) Marriage is a sensitive, personal and private matter. Don't
let any mass market matrimonial websites commoditize you as
a product on a catalogue
2) Don't get carried away by sites that claim they have millions
of members. It is immaterial to you. Multiple choices are
only an illusion. You are unique and there is only one match
and you can marry only one.
3) Don't get carried away by success stories they claim on
their sites. It is irrelevant to you and you cannot validate
their authenticity
4) Don't let automatic software matchmaker programs spam your
mailbox. It will distract you and keep you single for years.
Remember - most mass market matrimonial sites desire that
you remain single so that they can get renewed subscriptions.
5) Don't start exchanging pictures from the beginning however
beautiful or handsome you may be. You spoil your chances of
finding a good match due to a focus on too superficial parameters.
You will end up with the wrong person
6) Establish Trust. Furnish the facts of who you are in tangible
terms so you are not a virtual identity. There is nothing
wrong in sharing a traditional biodata instead of being abstract.
A generic profile says - I am a doctor. A specific profile
says - I graduated from G.S Medical in 2000 with Ist class
and practice as a pediatrician in Mumbai
7) Exchange each other's pictures if you feel that basic background
is compatible. Don't plaster your picture on websites. You
are demeaning your identity from a multi dimensional personality
to a static, one dimensional image. You attract or repel someone
based on your personality and not your picture.
8) Don't correspond with multiple profiles simultaneously.
You will not be able to do justice.
9) Don't use Video/ SMS alert or Messenger services to exchange
initial information. SMS shows how abrupt and irresponsible
you are with the most important chapter of your life.
10) Instant Messenger invites parallel processing with multiple
people and leads to no outcome. Use it only after you have
exchanged basic info and would like to pursue a relationship
with someone but have geographic constraints
11) Don't copy other people's profiles just to make the profile
look fancy. Be yourself.
12) Don't just walk away but RUN from websites that offer
multiple distracting popup windows when you are searching
for your partner
13) Don't use websites which offer you the false ego boost
of Declining someone. It is rude, immature and silly.
Dos : KYS Know Your Self
1) List
your strengths and weaknesses
2) List down your key achievements in life
3) List down what you will offer the marriage
4) List down what you value in her/him and what she/he should
value
5) List down your personal and professional future plans
6) List down what you can compromise on in terms of location,
financial status, food habits, religion, mother tongue, field
of work and the likes
7) List down what you cannot compromise on - "must haves"
Communication
Tips
8) Take
initiative in communication when you find someone of interest
9) Introduce yourself with a traditional biodata
10) Share the KYS with the person across
11) Request for a KYS discussion from the other person
12) Be prompt, patient and mature
13) Be Realistic in your expectations.
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.Are you
a successful, educated, intelligent, well traveled and elite
Indian professional?
Do you believe you deserve some basic respect & privacy?
Have you been spammed daily with 25 messages from software
auto matchmakers?
Are you losing focus on quality partner profiles due to a
mass-market mentality?
Have you subscribed to a mass market website for years &
are still single and looking?
Indian Millionaire Marriages.com launched by the Indian Millionaire
Club offers a classy, socially conscious solution to all the
above problems. It offers a platform that helps find your
match respecting the sensitivity and privacy of your very
personal issue called marriage.
This elegant
site offers an exquisite interaction platform for Millionaires
in Karma (actions) or Dharma (way of life), Mind or Heart,
Body or Soul.
Rajesh
Shukla -- Vice President with a US software company says,
"I am a busy professional and given my limited time,
if I have to weed through multitudes of profiles as advertised
by some other sites with their daily match alerts, I would
lose patience to look for that 'Special' one. In quantity,
I would lose focus on quality. Why do I care if a site has
thousands or millions of members when they are not applicable
to me? This is not bulk commodity shopping. I needed a 'no
noise, premium portal' that focuses more on quality than quantity
and Indian Millionaire Marriages.com fits that need."
Indian
Millionaire Marriages Madhu Ramchandran adds, "We curtail
this profile commoditization and do not spam our members with
multiple alerts that create an attention deficit in an already
cluttered world. We step back and allow members to surf at
their own pace."
Gayathri
Sanyal, a marriage counselor says, "In a research we
conducted on Indian matrimonial sites, we found that 60 per
cent of conversations between seemingly matching couples broke
off at the first stage because of the way the sites are designed.
Most sites persuade members to attach photos so their sites
look attractive. As an example Ashok was looking for his soul
mate for the last 3 years. Based on the way sites advertised
he was mentally conditioned to search among profiles of girls
with pictures. Last month he accidentally met Aishwarya at
one of his business seminars and they instantly clicked. Later
he learned that Aishwarya like most girls believed in evaluating
more concrete parameters before publicly displaying her photos."
Madhu
adds, "We eliminate such irrelevant and unintelligent
issues by not insisting that members post pictures. Nobody
is going to marry without seeing his or her picture or meeting
the person. Chemistry without connection cannot be long lasting
and hence we encourage an exchange of more concrete parameters
that develop a foundation of trust and confidence.
The portal
has conducted intensive research to understand the psychology
of educated, successful eligible men and women and offers
wise and practical tips to achieving the end goal of finding
their match without compromising on the process.
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