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FAQ on Online Matrimonials

Indian Internet Matrimony - Dos and Donts -
By: Mrs Gayathri Sanyal (Marriage Consultant) for IndianMillionaireMarriages .com


Marriage is one of the most important decisions of your life. Be wary of matrimonial sites.

Don't s
1) Marriage is a sensitive, personal and private matter. Don't let any mass market matrimonial websites commoditize you as a product on a catalogue
2) Don't get carried away by sites that claim they have millions of members. It is immaterial to you. Multiple choices are only an illusion. You are unique and there is only one match and you can marry only one.
3) Don't get carried away by success stories they claim on their sites. It is irrelevant to you and you cannot validate their authenticity
4) Don't let automatic software matchmaker programs spam your mailbox. It will distract you and keep you single for years. Remember - most mass market matrimonial sites desire that you remain single so that they can get renewed subscriptions.
5) Don't start exchanging pictures from the beginning however beautiful or handsome you may be. You spoil your chances of finding a good match due to a focus on too superficial parameters. You will end up with the wrong person
6) Establish Trust. Furnish the facts of who you are in tangible terms so you are not a virtual identity. There is nothing wrong in sharing a traditional biodata instead of being abstract.
A generic profile says - I am a doctor. A specific profile says - I graduated from G.S Medical in 2000 with Ist class and practice as a pediatrician in Mumbai
7) Exchange each other's pictures if you feel that basic background is compatible. Don't plaster your picture on websites. You are demeaning your identity from a multi dimensional personality to a static, one dimensional image. You attract or repel someone based on your personality and not your picture.
8) Don't correspond with multiple profiles simultaneously. You will not be able to do justice.
9) Don't use Video/ SMS alert or Messenger services to exchange initial information. SMS shows how abrupt and irresponsible you are with the most important chapter of your life.
10) Instant Messenger invites parallel processing with multiple people and leads to no outcome. Use it only after you have exchanged basic info and would like to pursue a relationship with someone but have geographic constraints
11) Don't copy other people's profiles just to make the profile look fancy. Be yourself.
12) Don't just walk away but RUN from websites that offer multiple distracting popup windows when you are searching for your partner
13) Don't use websites which offer you the false ego boost of Declining someone. It is rude, immature and silly.

Dos : KYS Know Your Self

1) List your strengths and weaknesses
2) List down your key achievements in life
3) List down what you will offer the marriage
4) List down what you value in her/him and what she/he should value
5) List down your personal and professional future plans
6) List down what you can compromise on in terms of location, financial status, food habits, religion, mother tongue, field of work and the likes
7) List down what you cannot compromise on - "must haves"

Communication Tips

8) Take initiative in communication when you find someone of interest
9) Introduce yourself with a traditional biodata
10) Share the KYS with the person across
11) Request for a KYS discussion from the other person
12) Be prompt, patient and mature
13) Be Realistic in your expectations.

Read rest of the feature


.Are you a successful, educated, intelligent, well traveled and elite Indian professional?
Do you believe you deserve some basic respect & privacy?
Have you been spammed daily with 25 messages from software auto matchmakers?
Are you losing focus on quality partner profiles due to a mass-market mentality?
Have you subscribed to a mass market website for years & are still single and looking?

Indian Millionaire Marriages.com launched by the Indian Millionaire Club offers a classy, socially conscious solution to all the above problems. It offers a platform that helps find your match respecting the sensitivity and privacy of your very personal issue called marriage.

This elegant site offers an exquisite interaction platform for Millionaires in Karma (actions) or Dharma (way of life), Mind or Heart, Body or Soul.

Rajesh Shukla -- Vice President with a US software company says, "I am a busy professional and given my limited time, if I have to weed through multitudes of profiles as advertised by some other sites with their daily match alerts, I would lose patience to look for that 'Special' one. In quantity, I would lose focus on quality. Why do I care if a site has thousands or millions of members when they are not applicable to me? This is not bulk commodity shopping. I needed a 'no noise, premium portal' that focuses more on quality than quantity and Indian Millionaire Marriages.com fits that need."

Indian Millionaire Marriages Madhu Ramchandran adds, "We curtail this profile commoditization and do not spam our members with multiple alerts that create an attention deficit in an already cluttered world. We step back and allow members to surf at their own pace."

Gayathri Sanyal, a marriage counselor says, "In a research we conducted on Indian matrimonial sites, we found that 60 per cent of conversations between seemingly matching couples broke off at the first stage because of the way the sites are designed. Most sites persuade members to attach photos so their sites look attractive. As an example Ashok was looking for his soul mate for the last 3 years. Based on the way sites advertised he was mentally conditioned to search among profiles of girls with pictures. Last month he accidentally met Aishwarya at one of his business seminars and they instantly clicked. Later he learned that Aishwarya like most girls believed in evaluating more concrete parameters before publicly displaying her photos."

Madhu adds, "We eliminate such irrelevant and unintelligent issues by not insisting that members post pictures. Nobody is going to marry without seeing his or her picture or meeting the person. Chemistry without connection cannot be long lasting and hence we encourage an exchange of more concrete parameters that develop a foundation of trust and confidence.

The portal has conducted intensive research to understand the psychology of educated, successful eligible men and women and offers wise and practical tips to achieving the end goal of finding their match without compromising on the process.

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